Relationship Therapy
Gottman
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Attachment
Why Relationship Therapy?
Our relationships with others have such a big impact on our lives. When they're going well, they can be a safe harbor from the many other stresses in life and a place of rest, rejuvenation, and understanding. They can be a place to feel good about who we are in a complicated world.
Unfortunately, we get so many messages that good people= good relationships when in reality, "good" relationships don't just happen on their own, even between really good people.
Any relationship involves a negotiation of different communication styles, different histories, different coping skills and ways of self-protecting. Relationships take a lot of work.
Having an outside perspective that doesn't take sides, but instead helps you see each other's side and get to the root of each of your core needs can be invaluable.
An experienced perspective and some practice can move your relationship(s) back to being a source of joy and comfort ❤
Relationship Counseling Can Help You
Communicate in ways that allow you and your loved one(s) to better understand each other
Disagree with each other without escalating
Understand each other's attachment styles
Increase emotional availability
Increase intimacy
Understand what’s beneath ongoing sources of stress & conflict
Identify, express and negotiate your needs authentically and non-reactively
Get back on the same team
Determine if it's better for the relationship to transition into something different than what it currently is
Navigate thoughtful and amicable relationship transitions, separations, and negotiation of parenting plans and other types of decisions going forward
What types of relationships?
We are affirming of all varieties of relationships, including queer, hetero, monogamous, polyamorous, and cross-cultural relationships. We also provide counseling for families and are open to other non-romantic relationships, including friends, co-parents, workplace relationships and others who are seeking assistance to improve their patterns of relating.
Our Approach
We are big believers in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and understanding how attachment affects needs and ways of relating to others. In this way, nobody is wrong. Each person is just trying to feel seen and understood by their loved ones. EFT slows things down so each person can be present with their own core needs and the core needs of each other and learn to communicate in new ways that move away from right and wrong and into deeper connection. We also incorporate the work of The Gottman Institute, mindfulness, and other evidence-based practices.